Is this harming me?
Is this still sabotage if your mom doesn't tell you you can't do this or that, but she secretly cuts off supplies necessary to succeed? For example, if she knows i have an important interview coming up and she doesn't want me to succeed and want to keep me close to her, she doesn't say no. Instead, she would overwhelm me with family obligations. Or, she would make me talk to them by creating situations, leaving me no energy and time to focus on my own goals. Or, she would make sure i am occupied with something else. And then, she denies any involvement and deflects blame.
Just curious, is that still a sabotage?